Missing Home

Dear Wombat and
Dingbat,

You know that feeling
when you’re tired and have had too many new things and you just want to go home
and sleep in your own bed and eat from your own food dish and be around things
you know? But your human who has the car keys isn’t ready yet, or maybe has to
drive a long ways first? Well, maybe you can’t relate to this, Dingbat, but I’m
guessing Wombat does. Anyway, that’s how I’m feeling right now. I’m in a very
nice house with a wonderful human, but it’s his house and with all the
coronavirus stuff, I’m stressed and out of sorts and just want to go home. But
a complication is that I don’t have a home because I was on a Grand Adventure.
I do have some keepsakes, but they are 2000 miles away in a friend’s basement,
and I don’t think I’ll be able to safely go there and get them for a long, long
time. Like probably at least a year. I don’t need anything, but I really badly
want to be able to relax and feel at home. I go on long walks and stuff, but it
doesn’t help. What do you do to make a place feel like home when it isn’t?

–Homesick

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Getting Underway

How do I get myself to do things?  I have a long-standing problem getting myself to do things that I think will be hard. Like writing up meeting notes, or doing my taxes, or making phone calls. Once I start doing these things, I find that they are not so hard. They may take some time, and I may need some more information, or to break them down into steps.

Then I feel bad about not doing these things, put them off even more, leave things until the last minute, feel rushed and not productive, although I sometimes do a good job at the last minute. Routine things that have to be done are fine, like feeding my cat, changing his water, and cleaning the litter box. I’ve never been able to train myself with rewards like food or games.

Any good suggestions? You are so good at this! Thank you.

Unmotivated

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Sheltering and Stressed

I am so stressed out
and I don’t know how to relax since I’m under a shelter in place order. Please
advise. How do you guys stay sane? I am so worried we won’t go back to normal.
And I don’t know how much longer I can take this. My anxiety is so high right
now. And I’m having trouble sleeping.

–Super Stressed

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Living With Distance

The novel corona virus is scaring all my friends, and it isn’t safe to go see them, or even hug them. Sometimes I’m scared myself and need a hug, but we all have to stay in our homes alone. What’s the best thing to do when I feel alone and afraid?

–Isolated

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Communication Quandary

A friend sent me a letter that is confusing. He is hurt and angry and it may be at me. But I don’t understand why. Maybe he is mad at someone else or mad at himself. He has trouble with his thoughts sometimes and with expressing himself. I have trouble expressing myself sometimes too. He feels so much, and I don’t know how to respond. He may not want to see me, and I am unable to see him now anyway. I cannot bring him treats or poke my nose in his face or hand. What can I do?
–Puzzled

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