Unfollowed Advice

Dear Wombat & Dingbat,
How do you deal with someone who always thinks that they’re right? Someone who asks for your opinion and/or advice, then quickly discards or discounts the idea/suggestion? Then in almost the same breath, argues that what s/he is doing is better and the idea offered is ‘less than’.

With thanks,

– Disheartened Friend

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Talking with Strangers

Dear Wombat and Dingbat:  Like you, I often “perform” (teach) in public, but unlike you, I’d really prefer just to be home alone. I like being with people when I’m teaching, but when I need to be in large groups socially, people expect me to be the same talkative, outgoing person I am when I’m teaching—but that’s a performance, not real life. In real life, I find it difficult to talk to people in social settings. So my question for you is, how do I overcome my social anxiety and learn how to just be comfortable talking to strangers? –Homebody

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The Pursuit of Happiness

Dear Wombat and Dingbat: I’m a human girl but I’ve always wished I could have a tail to wag like dogs have. Even though I don’t have a tail, what’s your advice for living a life worthy of wagging your tail all the time?
—No Tail

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The Case of the Uncooperative Child

Dear Wombat and Dingbat,

I have a daughter who has arrived at the early stages of the boundary-pushing age: she negotiates about *everything.* She makes herself late to school in the morning because of her other projects; she tries to delay her bedtime as long as possible, etc. etc. I am an uncomfortable authoritarian—the world would be so much easier if I could just explain, reflect back some emotional life, express my need, and she’d understand and respond well. Is there a perfect balance to strike? How do I figure out where it might lie, and how should I behave while figuring it out?  

—Frustrated Dad

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Love Your Neighbor

Dear Wombat & Dingbat,

I know that I need to love myself in order to love my neighbor. Two questions: how do I love myself more without being a complete narcissist? And how do I love my “neighbors” when they are so annoying? Thanks for your guidance.

–Religious Quandary

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